DEALING WITH DESTRUCTIVE EMOTIONS


26 Nov
26Nov

Romans 8:1-2 (NKJV Strong's)

1 There is therefore now no condemnation to those who are in Christ Jesus, who do not walk according to the flesh, but according to the Spirit. 2 For the law of the Spirit of life in Christ Jesus has made me free from the law of sin and death

Romans 8:6 (NKJV Strong's)

6 For to be carnally minded is death, but to be spiritually minded is life and peace.

Ungodly emotions are one of the most difficult things to deal with and sometimes difficult to even notice since they are so personal and can easily blend into your character.

The enemy often uses certain emotions to cause us to be self-destructive and self-limiting without him having to do much!


2 Corinthians 2:11 (NASB)

11 so that no advantage would be taken of us by Satan, for we are not ignorant of his schemes.

2 Corinthians 2:11 (AMPC)

11 To keep Satan from getting the advantage over us; for we are not ignorant of his wiles and intentions.

Proverbs 16:32 (NKJV Strong's)

32 He who is slow to anger is better than the mighty,

And he who rules his spirit than he who takes a city.

Hebrews 12:1-2 (NKJV Strong's)

1 Therefore we also, since we are surrounded by so great a cloud of witnesses, let us lay aside every weight, and the sin which so easily ensnares us, and let us run with endurance the race that is set before us, 2 looking unto Jesus, the author and finisher of our faith, who for the joy that was set before Him endured the cross, despising the shame, and has sat down at the right hand of the throne of God.

Philippians 4:12-13 (NLT)

12 I know how to live on almost nothing or with everything. I have learned the secret of living in every situation, whether it is with a full stomach or empty, with plenty or little. 13 For I can do everything through Christ, who gives me strength.


2 Corinthians 4:7-9 (NLT)

7 We now have this light shining in our hearts, but we ourselves are like fragile clay jars containing this great treasure. This makes it clear that our great power is from God, not from ourselves.

8 We are pressed on every side by troubles, but we are not crushed. We are perplexed, but not driven to despair. 9 We are hunted down, but never abandoned by God. We get knocked down, but we are not destroyed.


  1. GRIEF & SORROW 


1 Thessalonians 4:13 (NLT)

The Hope of the Resurrection

13 And now, dear brothers and sisters, we want you to know what will happen to the believers who have died so you will not grieve like people who have no hope.


  • Grief is a state of pain and vulnerability which the enemy can take advantage of in order to render life unlivable.
  • When the pain of loss become so unbearable you can’t see how you can move on with life
  • Don’t allow people to pressure you into a state of perpetual sorry and bondage
  • When grief becomes spiritual or demonic, it becomes very hard to cope with life.


  1. ANXIETY, FEAR & PANIC ATTACKS

Worry about something with an uncertain outcome

Fear and panic attacks is a constant expectation something bad going to happen without any tangible proof!


Anxiety and failing to walk in the peace of God could hinder you from walking in His best blessings


Philippians 4:6-7 (NKJV Strong's)

6 Be anxious for nothing, but in everything by prayer and supplication, with thanksgiving, let your requests be made known to God; 7 and the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding, will guard your hearts and minds through Christ Jesus.

Philippians 4:4 (NKJV Strong's)

4 Rejoice in the Lord always. Again I will say, rejoice!

What anxiety does to you!

  1. Anxiety keeps you wondering and worrying about what is unknown at that moment
  2. It gives room for the enemy to torment you with lies and deception
  3. It may cause you to take rushed and uniformed actions that may be more costly
  4. It tends to make you desperate and vulnerable
  5. It could cause you to overreact in the face of offense

Matthew 6:31-34 (NKJV Strong's)

31 “Therefore do not worry, saying, ‘What shall we eat?’ or ‘What shall we drink?’ or ‘What shall we wear?’ 32 For after all these things the Gentiles seek. For your heavenly Father knows that you need all these things. 33 But seek first the kingdom of God and His righteousness, and all these things shall be added to you. 34 Therefore do not worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow will worry about its own things. Sufficient for the day is its own trouble.


The word “worry or take thought (KJV)” is the Greek Word ‘merimnao’ which means to be anxious or worry about tangible needs or to.

  1. OFFENSE & BITTERNESS 


Bitterness makes you a victim/captive of offense & disappointment 

Hebrews 12:15 (NKJV Strong's)

15 looking carefully lest anyone fall short of the grace of God; lest any root of bitterness springing up cause trouble, and by this many become defiled;


It has the potential to make an enemy out of lifelong friend or partner. It can destroy your life’s investment in relationships.


It starts with a seed - e.g. an offense that has not been dealt with or a competitive attitude caused by envy or selfishness

It develops a root - when you actively entertain the attitude or emotion (you are watering it). It becomes part of you. Remember it will produce after its own.

Then it springs out - it causes trouble, i.e. the full manifestation of bitterness affecting you and others and hindering God’s grace over your life. It becomes difficult to identify as the cause of problems. Once it springs forth it produces things like:

  • Corrupt communication - evil or destructive words
  • Bad attitudes - pride, resentment
  • Evil speaking - speaking badly about others
  • Anger - creating a hostile and threatening attitude towards others
  • Malice - intention or desire to do evil against someone
  • Clamor - chaotic noise and confusion
  • Hatred - intense dislike of another


Ephesians 4:29-32 (NKJV Strong's)

29 Let no corrupt word proceed out of your mouth, but what is good for necessary edification, that it may impart grace to the hearers. 30 And do not grieve the Holy Spirit of God, by whom you were sealed for the day of redemption. 31 Let all bitterness, wrath, anger, clamor, and evil speaking be put away from you, with all malice. 32 And be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, even as God in Christ forgave you.


  1. FRUSTRATION

a feeling of being upset or annoyed because of inability to change or achieve something


  • Frustration makes you feel like you are just chasing shadows
  • Frustration will prevent you from hearing from God
  • It hinders you from receiving fresh thoughts and ideas
  • You become unfairly critical of others, like a dog which only bucks when a car starts moving! 
  • A frustrated person frustrates others - if you don’t know what to do with yourself; others will not know what to do with you!


James 5:13 (NKJV Strong's)

Meeting Specific Needs

13 Is anyone among you suffering? Let him pray. Is anyone cheerful? Let him sing psalms.


How Negative Emotions Can Affect Your Health


  • Every feeling you have affects some part of your body. While positive emotions such as gratitude have been scientifically linked to a number of beneficial health effects, negative emotions and stress can wreak havoc


  • Certain emotions are known to be associated with pain in certain regions of your body. For example, depressed individuals will often experience chest pains, even when there’s nothing physically wrong with their heart


  • A biochemical cascade occurs during a bout of anger. Adrenaline and noradrenaline are released, raising your blood pressure, heart rate and breathing rate. Blood is pushed to your extremities, including your face, which may turn red
  • To maintain or regain emotional control at this point, you need to engage your prefrontal cortex — the area of your brain that controls complex cognitive behavior, willpower, decision making and judgment
  • Scientifically proven ways to strengthen your prefrontal cortex and improve your self-control include eating a healthy diet, getting enough quality sleep, exercising regularly and managing daily stress. Brief daily meditation has been shown to increase activity in the prefrontal cortex in as little as eight weeks
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